Timi Dakolo has opened on marriage and fatherhood in a chat with
The Entertainer .He says his 2012 marriage to his wife has transformed him .He also reveals how he stays away from temptation
“The Bible says ‘many are the afflictions of the righteous man.’ What I
do is that I stay out of trouble and the way I avoid temptation is by
sitting in my house and watching football, playing video games and doing
music, and I am always so happy at the end of the day.
“I always try to push my wife in people’s faces whenever I have the
opportunity because when it comes to temptation, no man is as strong as
he thinks he is and that is the truth. So if you want to avoid
temptation, just sit in your house and don’t forget that our industry is
a very unforgiving one; I don’t want scandals.”
On How Marriage has transformed him
“Marriage has really transformed me,”life is not just what it used to be
any more I must confess. I can’t do a lot of things I want to do
anymore because now I am married and it has made me more responsible.
These days I think for more than just one person. Marriage makes you
start every journey with an end in mind and that is the joy of being
married.
“Even as I speak to you I am thinking of how I will pay school fees and
house rent. A lot of responsibility comes with marriage but then, it
also comes with a lot of favour; undeserved favour, favour you can’t
even explain being showered upon you from left right and centre.
On Making 3 babies in 4 years
“I have three kids now and I can confidently tell you that my wife and I
are done making children; no more kids because I have three already. I
am done with making babies.”
On his wife
“Before I got married I prayed to God for a woman who would understand
me and my moods because I could be very easily distracted and
destabilised so I wanted a woman that would not give me trouble but
rather, complement me.
“The truth is when I am troubled and distressed I could be the least
creative person for as much as four days at a stretch so because I
wanted peace in my home, because I wanted somebody that would understand
when I tell her that ‘baby, you can’t talk to me now I am writing,’ and
she wouldn’t get upset, I had to pray a lot and I thank God I found
that person in my wife.
“Now you could tell that to some people and they would get very angry
and upset with you but my wife does not because she understands and
sometimes, when I am busy and the kids are getting in the way she tells
them ‘don’t go there, daddy wants to be alone.’
“She understands my moods. That is how we are. She is my greatest
critique. A man’s greatest achievement is marriage. Marriage has
transformed even my music.”
