Lagos, December 28, 2025 – Nigerian media personality, actress, author, and entrepreneur Toke Makinwa has ignited widespread online discussions with her candid remarks on infidelity, asserting that women cheat more frequently than men but excel at concealing it due to inherent advantages in opportunities and discretion.
The 41-year-old star made these controversial statements during a recent episode of her popular podcast, Toke Moments, where she delved into relationship dynamics, gender stereotypes, and personal growth in matters of fidelity.
According to Makinwa, societal narratives often portray men as the primary perpetrators of cheating, but she believes this overlooks women's equal—or greater—participation. "As I grow older, I realise it’s not only men who can cheat. Why do we make it seem like men are special?" she questioned, challenging the double standard that glorifies or excuses male infidelity while vilifying women.
She elaborated that cheating is significantly easier for women because they typically do not need to expend the same resources as men. "Do you know how easy it is for a woman to cheat? It’s even easier for us. Men will spend money, effort, and time, but women are just receiving," Makinwa explained, highlighting how women are often approached rather than pursuing affairs actively.
Makinwa emphasized that a woman's decision to remain faithful stems from personal discipline rather than a lack of temptation. "A woman not cheating is not because she cannot cheat. It’s probably because she has strength," she said, citing common scenarios like developing a "work boyfriend" as potential gateways to infidelity.
Concluding her thoughts, the podcast host reiterated: "Women cheat more, but they know how to hide it," arguing that superior discretion allows female infidelity to go undetected more often.
Makinwa also addressed her evolved stance on cheating in relationships, clarifying that it is no longer an automatic "dealbreaker" for her, though with caveats. "Cheating is not a dealbreaker for me but it comes with a caveat. When I say it, some people think that I am encouraging cheating. No," she stressed, framing her comments as a mature acknowledgment of human flaws rather than endorsement.
This is not the first time Makinwa has openly discussed infidelity. In early 2024, following her highly publicized divorce from fitness expert Maje Ayida amid allegations of his serial cheating, she shared similar views, noting that aging brought realization that "men cheat, women cheat" and restraint often prevents women from acting on opportunities.
Toke Moments, hosted on platforms like Spotify and produced by Eggcorn Digital, features Makinwa engaging in unfiltered conversations on dating, career, and life experiences. The podcast has built a loyal following for its relatable and provocative topics, often sparking national debates on social issues.
Her latest episode quickly went viral, with clips circulating on X (formerly Twitter) and eliciting mixed reactions. Supporters praised her for dismantling gender biases and promoting honest dialogue, while critics accused her of normalizing infidelity or generalizing based on anecdotes. Forums like Nairaland saw hundreds of comments debating the validity of her claims, with users sharing personal stories and opinions on gender differences in cheating.
Makinwa, born November 3, 1984, rose to fame as a radio host on Rhythm 93.7 FM before transitioning to television, acting in films like The Wait and authoring the bestseller On Becoming. Known for her fashion influence and business ventures, including a beauty line, she continues to be a prominent voice in Nigerian entertainment.
As discussions rage online, Makinwa's remarks underscore evolving conversations around relationships in modern Nigeria, where traditional expectations clash with contemporary realities. Whether her views resonate or provoke, they have undeniably reignited debates on equality, fidelity, and accountability across genders.
